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Tips for minimizing communication conflicts with your ex

On Behalf of | Mar 21, 2024 | Child Custody & Support

When some people divorce, they never have to hear from their ex again; however, that’s likely not the case for you if you share a child with yours. As such, having a plan for communication that reduces the chance of conflicts is critical.

One of the most important things to remember is that you have to focus on your child’s best interests. Keeping communication centered on the children may make cooperating easier.

Use written communication

Written communication, such as texts, emails or co-parenting apps, can be a useful tool in minimizing misunderstandings and conflicts. It allows you and your ex to carefully consider the words before responding. It also provides a record of what was agreed upon. Written communication can help tone down the emotional intensity that might arise in face-to-face or phone conversations.

Set clear boundaries

Establishing clear boundaries regarding communication can significantly reduce conflicts. This might include agreeing on specific topics that are off-limits, setting a regular schedule for updates about the child or deciding on the preferred method of communication. Boundaries help manage expectations and create a structured environment for interaction, reducing the chances of conflicts escalating.

Practice active listening

Active listening means you tune into what’s being said instead of just loosely hearing the words without the message. When communicating with your ex, try to listen attentively, acknowledge their points and respond thoughtfully. Demonstrating that you value their perspective can foster mutual respect and understanding may reduce the likelihood of conflicts.

Agree to disagree

Recognizing that you won’t always agree on everything and deciding to respect each other’s differing opinions can help maintain a peaceful co-parenting relationship. Agreeing to disagree on minor issues allows both parties to move forward without getting stuck in endless debates.

Keeping the focus on co-parenting effectively, despite personal differences, is key to reducing conflicts. Having terms in your parenting plan addressing each of these concerns can further reduce the chance of contentious conversations.