Sadly, many individuals are struggling to get out of troubled marriages. The especially difficult cases involve divorcing a narcissist.
Below is some important information that you may need when going through the process of divorcing a narcissist here in California.
Assemble a team that supports you
When splitting up with a narcissist, you can expect that this will be a high-conflict process. You need to remain in control of your case and not let it get derailed by your partner’s antics in and out of the courtroom.
If you have children, it’s a good idea to find a therapist for them — and another for yourself. Your legal team is important, too. You want someone who understands your situation and who will fight for your rights.
Head them off at the pass
When divorcing a narcissist, never reveal your plans until all your ducks are in line. This practically means that you have copies of all the financial records that the court will require. IRS filings, credit card statements and financial statements from your banks or credit unions will all be needed to determine the division of assets in this community property state.
Be prepared for toxicity and gaslighting
Expect your narcissist to amp up the very behaviors that led to your filing for divorce. Once they are served the petition for divorce, make sure that you and any children are safe. This type of person usually wants to litigate cases rather than work together for the best solution for all.
Let all communication go through the attorneys
That way, your stress level won’t be topping the chart and your attorney can intercept any nonsense. An attorney can even petition the court to issue a restraining order if your ex threatens to harm you. Even a barrage of texts from them that disturb your peace of mind can be sufficient in some cases to get a restraining order.
You deserve the peace and well-being that divorcing a narcissist can bring you – but legal guidance is wise.